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Welcome

the first step is always the hardest...

We humans are social beings. And as social beings we are constantly relating to others, our partners, children, parents or colleagues at work. It is therefore normal and almost to be expected that there are times when we have problems, get stuck or even overwhelmed. 

We often think we need to solve these problems on our own. As Brene Brown says:

“Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into “those who offer help” and “those who need help.” The truth is that we are both.” 

And still… it is understandable. Reaching for help can be daunting.  We are unsure what awaits us and discussing personal topics with someone we don’t know can be uncomfortable at first. We tend to wait and see and hope the problems will get better. But often they don’t. Sometimes they escalate. 

I therefore encourage you to take that first step. Counseling offers professional support in difficult times. It’s a space where all topics are welcome and the focus is on helping you get clear on what you can do. 

I look forward to supporting you in this process.

Ben

Counseling Approach

RElational focused counseling

My goal in counseling is to help you build new emotional muscles, new ways of relating to your situation to enable you to re-engage with your challenges from a new perspective. 

Research shows that to create meaningful and lasting change, we always need to look deeper than communication techniques, or behavioral strategies. We need to make an inner shift in our emotional life and how we relate to each other emotionally. The focus of our counseling sessions is to help you make this emotional shift, alone, as a couple, or as a family.

This means that we will dig deeper into how your situation is impacting you emotionally. Sometimes an uncomfortable process, but one that is very rewarding. For once we have moved through what is blocking us emotionally we can re-connect with what is deeply important to us, our longing for connection and love to those closest to us. With this viewpoint we start to see options and solutions that we were unable to see previously and we can begin to relate to each other in ways that invite cooperation and love.

Counseling is therefore not intellectual, or theoretical. It is hands on, based on your present experience and emotionally focused. It empowers you to act differently because you now feel differently about a situation that was previously overwhelming.

No risk first Session

First sessions overview

  • We discuss your situation and together clarify where you need support
  • Then the remainder of the session we will work with the topic that is most pressing for you
  • We then decide together if and how we will continue with counseling

Contact details

I invite you to take the next step and call me to arrange a no risk first session.  

To be able to move deeper into more sensitive and personal topics it is important that you feel comfortable with me as a counselor and that you can trust me.  If, at the completion of the first session, you decide that we are not a good fit and that you do not wish to continue with counseling then there is no charge. 

“The most functional way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them”.
Dr. Susan Johnson

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