Separation Support
Ending a relationship is difficult.
However, when it happens with respect and allows both partners to maintain their dignity, it becomes easier for everyone involved.
Right now, I can only offer separation support for couples I’ve already been working with, where together we’ve come to see separation as the right step.
For couples who are already separated and looking for guidance, I unfortunately don’t have the capacity at the moment. On eftpaartherapie.at you’ll find compassionate and skilled colleagues who can support you through this process.
Conscious Separation – A New Way to Part Ways
“Conscious separation” means parting ways without destroying each other – allowing the chance to live “happily ever after,” just no longer as a couple.
In practice, however, this is a significant challenge. Even a “good” separation carries many pitfalls that can quickly derail an otherwise consensual process.
Currently, I am unable to take on new couples. Sometimes, however, couples separate after a longer support process that I have facilitated. I assist the couples I am currently working with in managing the separation process respectfully and peacefully – especially when children, shared friendships, or professional connections are involved.
Good intentions
are not enough
Many couples decide during a separation to “remain friends” or at least avoid conflict. Yet, things often turn out differently.
This is not surprising:
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old wounds
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misunderstandings
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shattered dreams
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broken agreements
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general overwhelm
…all trigger negative emotions – anger, sadness, frustration. The “ex” then appears as the logical cause of this pain, and the process quickly leads to blame and conflict.
It is human to hold someone responsible for one’s own suffering. However, when children or other shared interests are involved, this can lead to significant harm. Unfortunately, it is often the children who suffer the most during a separation.
Conscious Separation – Parting on Good Terms
The term "conscious separation", coined by Katherine Woodward Thomas, describes a way to end a relationship respectfully and transition it into a new form. This allows both partners to move forward without destroying what was once beautiful – while simultaneously laying the foundation for a healthy co-parenting or professional relationship.
How I Can Support You
I support couples in managing the painful separation process in a way that preserves respect and dignity.
By acknowledging their wounds, allowing healing, and releasing burdensome emotions, both partners create space for a new kind of relationship – one grounded in mutual respect, even beyond the couple dynamic.
FAQs
Müssen beide Partner dies gemeinsam tun? Im Idealfall führen beide Partner diesen Prozess gemeinsam durch, doch manchmal ist das nicht möglich. Selbst wenn nur ein Partner sich für eine respektvolle und friedliche Trennung entscheidet, verändert dies die Dynamik und macht den Prozess für alle Beteiligten einfacher. Wichtig: Das bedeutet nicht, dass die Beratungsgespräche immer gemeinsam mit Ihrem Ex-Partner stattfinden müssen. Die Sitzungen können auch einzeln abgehalten werden.
Wir haben uns bereits getrennt und stecken in einem Konflikt fest – ist dieser Prozess noch sinnvoll? Ja, auf jeden Fall. Sobald einer oder beide Partner beginnen, Verantwortung für ihren Teil des Konflikts zu übernehmen, kann sich die Dynamik verändern – selbst wenn seit der Trennung bereits mehrere Jahre vergangen sind.
Gibt es ein Buch, das ich zu diesem Thema lesen kann? Ja – Lass uns in Frieden auseinandergehen von Katherine Woodward Thomas. Es sollte in Ihrem bevorzugten Online-Buchladen erhältlich sein.